Osho –
Dhammapada: The Way of The Buddha (Volume 8)
Chapter 10. Towards
a new humanity
Question 1:
Beloved Master,
If by any chance I might not get
enlightened this lifetime, how can I make sure that I will be a woman in my
next life? It seems such a juicy existence.
Anand Baul, the first thing to
be remembered is that nobody ever gets enlightened.
Enlightenment is your nature;
you are already it. It is not something to be achieved, it is not a goal to be
reached. It is the source, not the goal. In the innermost core of your being
you are all buddhas, and you have always been so, and you will always remain
so.
Yes, you have forgotten it. So
the question is not of realizing it, the question is only of remembering it.
Hence Buddha says: Be more mindful, be more alert, be more watchful.
Nothing else has to be done,
one has nowhere to go, no pilgrimage is sacred. All pilgrimages are just going
astray. You are already there where you want to be; just look within, just turn
in, tune in. This is the first thing to be remembered, that it is not a
question of achievement.
You say, "If by any chance
I might not get enlightened this lifetime..."
There is no chance at all to
miss it. It is impossible to be other than enlightened. It is your self-nature,
your very being. This whole existence is enlightened.
Then what is the difference
between a buddha and you? The difference is very simple.
It has nothing to do with your
quality. Your quality is exactly the same as that of Gautama the Buddha, or
Jesus Christ, but you are asleep and they are awake. They know where they are,
who they are, and you are dreaming. But one can come out of the dreams; dreams cannot
hold you, dreams can't hinder you.
Dreams are dreams, they have no
substance in them. They can't prevent you from becoming awake. Dreams, desire,
sleep - they are all like darkness. When you light a candle the darkness cannot
prevent it. The darkness may be very ancient, it may have existed for millions
of years and the candle may be fresh and just a small candle, but that's
enough. Light has a positive existence. Darkness has no existence at all; it is
only absence of light. You can wake up any moment, the candle can be lit any
moment, and all dreams and desires will disappear; hence devices have been
invented.
What Buddha says, Patanjali
says, Lao Tzu says, is that these are only devices to wake you up, alarms and
nothing else.
Secondly, whether you want it
or not, if you remain asleep next lifetime you are going to be a woman. Even if
you don't want it, it is going to happen. There is a simple law.
This is my observation of many
people's past lives, this is how mind functions, this is very fundamental to
the mind: it always moves to the opposite end. If you are rich the mind thinks
poverty is religious, spiritual; it has something of innocence in it, and
"Look how the poor are free from anxiety, and how the beggar sleeps
soundly. I have got everything and I cannot sleep, I cannot rest, not even a
moment's rest... continuous worry, anxiety."
The rich man thinks always that
the poor are really in a better space than he is. It is the rich people who
have given the idea that poverty is spiritual. You will be surprised, take note
of it, that all the tirthankaras, all
the great masters of the Jainas were kings. Buddha himself was a king. All the avataras of the Hindus - Rama, Krishna,
they were all kings. It is because of these rich people that a deep idea has
prevailed down the ages that poverty is spiritual.
There is nothing spiritual in
being poor, there is nothing spiritual in being rich either.
The poor man thinks that the
rich people are enjoying real life; hence the poor man projects. If he cannot
be rich in this life, then let it be next life; if not in this world, then let
it be in the other world. It is the poor man's projection - the paradise, the
heaven, where he dreams that he will be rich, and he will have all that rich
people have. Not only that, the poor man also dreams that no rich man will ever
be able to reach heaven, they will be thrown into hell: "They have enjoyed
enough here, now they have to suffer for it. And I have suffered enough here so
I have to be rewarded."
Jesus is a poor man, he is not
like Krishna, Buddha and Mahavira. Krishna, Buddha and Mahavira have not said
that no rich man can enter into paradise. Jesus says: Even a camel can pass
through the eye of a needle, but the rich man cannot enter through the gate
into heaven. He is a poor carpenter's son; he knows what poverty is. And
because of that poverty he speaks a totally different language than Buddha.
In India the idea has prevailed
that if you are rich it is because of your past lives' good karmas that you are
rich now. And Jesus says: Rich people cannot enter into the kingdom of God. He
says: Those who are the first here will be the last there, and those who are
the last here will be the first. It is not an accident that Christianity goes
on spreading in poor countries; it has an appeal for the poor. It is not an
accident that communism is a by-product of Christianity.
The East has not given birth to
communism, it could not have done it. And whenever a country becomes rich,
remember, it will start becoming Buddhist, it will start becoming more and more
Hindu. It is not an accident that America is so much interested in Eastern
wisdom. Whenever a society is affluent it starts thinking in a different way
than a poor country thinks.
My observation is that if you
are a man in this life, you must have been a woman in your past life, and if
you are a woman in this life you must have been a man. That's how the pendulum
of mind goes from one extreme to the other. Every man thinks - not only you,
Anand Baul - that the existence of a woman is beautiful, it is juicy. But ask
the woman: she desires to be a man, deep down she feels humiliated that she is
a woman, a second-class citizen. Deep down she herself wants to behave like a
man.
Women all over the world are
trying in every possible way to behave like men. They are wearing men's
clothes, smoking cigarettes like men, and whatsoever they can do. They use
language like men have always used it, becoming arrogant, aggressive, losing
the feminine quality. See the women of the liberation movement: they have lost
something - - something soft, feminine, receptive, passive, is no more there.
They are aggressive, violent. They can't wait for another life. In this very
life they are in a hurry, they want to become like men. They want the same
jobs, the same kind of work, the same kind of freedom. Even if that freedom is
just stupid, even if that job is hard, they want to prove that they can manage
it, that they are not less than men. Their next life they are bound to be born
as men.
So don't be worried about that.
You will be a woman, watch out! Don't tell me then that you weren't warned. I
am giving you the warning. And what do you mean by "juicy existence"?
It appears to you through the
eyes of a man that the woman is beautiful; through the eyes of the woman the
man is beautiful. This is a biological attraction. That's why two women cannot
tolerate each other; it is impossible to find women friends. They are very
jealous of each other, suspicious of each other. They cannot trust other women;
they know too much about the woman's heart, about the woman's mind. They can't
see any beauty. In fact, they cannot believe what man goes on seeing in women.
There seems to be nothing. To a woman there is nothing, just as to a man there
is nothing in man. It is the biological attraction, chemical attraction.
And the last thing, Baul: it
seems you are not much acquainted with women. Become a little more acquainted.
Suffer a little with women, let them torture you a little more, and then you
will forget all this nonsense.
A man had decided to take a
trip with his eighteen-year-old daughter. "Hey, how about me?" his
wife exclaimed.
"Oh no," the man
said. "You and your big mouth are not going on any vacation with me. I got
enough of your big mouth all year long. I am taking our daughter and that's
all."
So off they went. The train on
which the man and his daughter rode was held up by robbers. They lost
everything. "I'm ruined!" the man said. "Everything I own is
gone!"
"No, Papa," the
daughter said, "I saved the jewelry. The minute I saw the robbers coming,
I took my rings, my diamonds and my bracelet and put them in my mouth."
"That's marvelous,"
said the father. "If your mother was here, we could have saved the
suitcase."
Question 2:
Beloved Master,
What is the use of esoteric teachings and
spiritual knowledge?
How can I find out if they are true or not?
Sef Kicken, the esoteric
teachings are only for the fools. The fools are very much interested in
anything they cannot understand. The idea of the foolish mind is that anything
it cannot understand must be very mysterious, must be very superior, must
belong to higher planes.
A really religious person has
nothing to do with esoteric nonsense - with theosophy, with anthroposophy, and
with so many Lobsang Rampas... and all kinds of nonsense that goes on being
written. It must be fulfilling some people's needs. Just as a few people like
detective novels, a few others are interested in esoteric knowledge.
There is nothing esoteric in
existence. Existence is nude, naked; nothing is hidden.
Once Buddha was asked,
"Have you said everything, or is there something esoteric which you have
not said?"
Buddha showed his hand - an
open hand - and he said, "I am like an open hand, not like a fist."
And so is existence - like an
open hand, not like a fist. It hides nothing; all is there, all around you. God
is overflowing... and you are pondering over esoteric things - seven planes or
seventeen, seven hells and seven heavens. And the more complicated is the
system, the more appeal it has.
Theosophy is more or less sheer
nonsense, but it attracted thousands of people around the world. It has become
a great world movement. People were talking of hidden masters, guides, astral,
ethereal... And in Madam Blavatsky's room letters used to drop from the ceiling
- letters from hidden masters who live in the Himalayas. Later on it was found
that a man used to hide there on the roof and he used to drop those letters.
The man himself confessed in
the court that "My whole work was that whenever the session of the
theosophists would be there and they would wait with closed eyes and pray for
masters, hidden masters, to guide them, I had instructions from Madam Blavatsky
what letter to drop. Those letters were written by Madam Blavatsky." They
were examined later on by experts and it was proved that they were written by
Blavatsky herself. But she fooled people for years.
You ask me, "What is the
use of esoteric teachings and spiritual knowledge?"
To fulfill the demands of the
fools, that is the use. And there is no spiritual knowledge at all.
Spirituality is an experience,
not knowledge. You cannot reduce it to knowledge; it is always knowing, never
knowledge. It is an insight, irreduceable into words. You cannot put it into
theories, into systems of thought; that is impossible. And those who try to do
it don't know anything... only then can they do it. This is a strange
phenomenon: those who know, they never try to reduce their knowing to
knowledge; and those who don't know, they are absolutely free. They can create
any knowledge, that is their invention.
All spiritual knowledge is the
invention of the mind. Real spiritual knowing happens only when the mind is
dropped, when you are in a state of no-mind.
And you ask me, "How can I
find out if they are true or not?"
Why should you be worried?
Rather try to find out who you are. That's the only real religious question,
the only quest: "Who am I?" That's enough; no other questions are
significant. Avoid all other jargon - spiritual, religious, theological,
esoteric. Avoid all jargon. Just stick to a simple quest: "Who am I?"
That's enough. If you know yourself you have known all; if you don't know
yourself you may know everything in the world, but that is of no use. It is
unnecessary burden and bondage.
Clarence and Lulu were sitting
on the front porch in Kentucky on a warm summer evening, holding hands.
Lulu turned to Clarence and
said, "Clarence, say something soft and mushy."
And Clarence embarrassedly turned
to Lulu and said, "Ah, shit!"
That's what esoteric knowledge
is - soft and mushy!
Question 3:
Beloved Master,
You told us the story of Krishna and Arjuna.
But is there no value in resisting war in a time where a handful of madmen play
with atomic bombs?
Peter Bohm, how can you resist
these few madmen who are playing with atom bombs?
What will be your strategy of
resistance? In fact, your resistance may bring the war sooner than otherwise;
your resistance is not going to prevent it.
The only thing that can prevent
the world war is that you start a totally new consciousness, that you start a
new kind of humanity... a man who is capable of love, a man who is capable of
meditation. Let love and meditation spread far and wide. Let meditation reach
to as many people as possible. Except that, all your efforts at resistance are
impotent.
You can protest and you can go
on a long march, but have you ever watched the protesters, the people who are
against war, the pacifists? Have you watched their processions? They look so
aggressive, they themselves look mad! If they had the atom bombs, just to
protect peace they would be the first to drop the atom bombs. They are as mad
as the other party; there is no difference at all. Their minds are as political
as the people who are in power; the only difference is that they are not in
power. And their anger, their pent-up anger, you can see on their faces, in
their slogans.
Every peace protest ends in a
fight with the police, with the military. It ends in burning buses, post
offices, police stations, cars. What kind of love is this and what kind of
resistance is this? It is impotent! But they are feeling they are doing
something great. It is an ego trip and nothing else.
The meek little bank clerk had
his suspicions. One day he left work early and sure enough, when he arrived
home, he found a strange hat and umbrella in the hallway and his wife on the
couch in the arms of another man.
Wild for revenge, the husband
picked up the man's umbrella and snapped it in two across his knee.
"There, now, I hope it
rains!"
What can you do? Yes, you can
shout and you can go for a long march with great posters, and it will give you
a certain satisfaction because your pent-up energies will be released. It is a
kind of catharsis. Unknowingly, you are doing Dynamic Meditation - but it would
be better if you do it knowingly.
Yes, war has come to a point
where it can destroy the whole humanity, and not only humanity but the whole
earth. Life as such can be destroyed. What can we do?
Scientific knowledge has gone
far ahead of man's spiritual growth; that is the problem, the real problem. Who
are these madmen you are talking about? Are they any different from you, Peter
Bohm? Richard Nixon, Brezhnev, Ayatollah Khomeini - are these different people
from you? Maybe there is some quantitative difference, but there is no
qualitative difference. If you come in power you will prove the same. And one
day these people were not in power; they were also just like you. When they are
in power, then their real faces show up.
Lord Acton says: Power
corrupts. It is not true. Power never corrupts, but corrupted people are
attracted towards power. Of course, without power they cannot show their real
faces. Power only gives them the right context in which they can reveal their
heart's reality. Power does not corrupt, it only reveals the truth. Powerless
people may not look mad because they cannot afford to be mad. Give them power
and then you will see: they are as mad as anybody else.
I don't see any difference
between warmongers and pacifists; they are the same kind of people. They appear
to be polar opposites but they belong together. Deep down they are one; two
ends of the same stick. Yes, I would like the earth to become a paradise and
not a cemetery... but what kind of resistance?
Even if Krishna was here, at this
juncture he would not have suggested war. I am absolutely certain about it. I
say categorically that Krishna would not have said to Arjuna to fight at this
moment, because this is global suicide. Five thousand years have passed since
Krishna and much has changed.
We have come to the point where
total war is possible. Nobody is going to be the winner, so what is the point
of war? War has been significant in the past because somebody would win and
somebody would lose. Now there is going to be no winner; all are going to be
the losers. War has lost all significance - war is absolutely stupid today. It
may have had some meaning in the past; it has none anymore.
Krishna's message is irrelevant
today; Buddha's message is more relevant. Krishna's message is out of date;
Buddha's message is very contemporary. But what is his message? His message is:
If you really want peace on the earth, create peace in your heart, in your
being. That is the right place to begin with - and then spread, radiate peace
and love.
If more and more people become
peaceful, joyous, if more and more people can dance and sing, if more and more
people can say "Alleluia!" from their very innermost core, it will
become impossible for these few mad people to create a war. Then we can put
these mad people into mental asylums very easily. We can convert our capitals
into mental asylums; that is not a big problem, once many many people's inner
consciousness is transformed.
Be a meditator.
Be a lover.
Be a celebrant.
Create the whole existence with
as much bliss and joy as possible. Make life so beautiful that nobody wants to
die.
Right now, the situation is
just the opposite: life is so ugly that who cares? If war happens, in fact,
people will feel relieved. They don't have to commit suicide and still the war
is going to do the work for them they always wanted to do themselves.
Psychologists say it is very
difficult to find a man who has not thought at least four times in his life of
committing suicide. But to commit suicide is not easy; it goes against the life
instinct. But if somebody else can take the responsibility and somebody else
can drop an atom bomb or a hydrogen bomb, then we are freed of the responsibility
of committing suicide and still the suicide happens. And not only we are dying
but everybody else with us.
We have to change people's
suicidal mind. Why do people think of suicide? - for the simple reason that
life is ugly and they don't know how to beautify it, how to make a song out of
it. It is just sadness, a long long anguish, a nightmare. That's why people
become interested in war and they support war - for any stupid cause, for any
excuse they are ready to kill and be killed.
And in fact, all political
causes are stupid, all so-called political revolutions are stupid.
The only revolution which is
not stupid is spiritual, is inner, is individual.
If you really want a world
without war, create this individual revolution I call sannyas.
This is real resistance.
Without resisting anybody you create a different space, a different context, in
which life starts blooming, life becomes creative.
And if people are creative,
blooming, joyous, politics and politicians will be things of the past. Yes, you
can save a few politicians to keep them in the zoos for future children to come
and see: "Look, this is Morarji Desai!" You can stuff them with straw
- they are already stuffed with straw and nothing else; they won't need much
more straw, just a little bit will do.
And this is possible now. It
was never possible before because war was never such a danger. Politics is now
the most stupid game, mad, utterly mad.
These are tremendously
significant moments, because we can change the whole human consciousness from
being political to spiritual.
Question 4:
Beloved Master,
What is presence of mind?
Kavita, presence of mind is
really a state of no-mind. You can call it mindfulness, awareness, or you can
call it a state of no-mind. The words seem to be contradicting each other, but
they are indicative of the same state. Presence of mind means to be in the
present, to be spontaneous, to be available to whatsoever is happening right
now.
To be available to here and now
is presence of mind. But the only way to be available to here and now is not to
be in the past, not to be in the future.
And mind consists of past and
future; mind knows nothing of the present. Mind is always occupied, it is never
unoccupied. And whenever the mind is unoccupied, utterly without any thought,
just watchful, alert, conscious, there arises a great presence. That presence
functions on its own accord. That presence makes your life a life of responses,
not of reactions.
Ordinary life is of reactions;
you react. Reaction means you are reacting to a present situation according to
the past. It never fits because life never repeats itself. History may repeat,
because history is a mind phenomenon, but life never repeats. It is always new,
always fresh; something new is always transpiring. You go on carrying old ideas
according to your experience, and you act out of those ideas thinking that you
are acting out of experience. This is reaction: you are lagging behind, you are
not true to the situation.
A response means being true to
the situation; not acting out of the past but acting out of the present moment.
Just like a mirror, it simply reflects that which is. If there is a flower, it
reflects a flower; if there is a face, it reflects the face. Your mind never
reflects that which is; your mind always reflects that which WAS. That's how
your mind never comes into a state of communion with reality. Then whatsoever
you do is wrong.
Presence of mind is a state of
thoughtlessness, but not of sleep, not of unconsciousness.
Thoughtless consciousness,
contentless consciousness - a mirror utterly empty, ready to mirror anything.
The beauty of the mirror is that it never catches hold of any reflection; it is
not like a photoplate. The photoplate immediately catches hold of the reflection
and that's why it is destroyed. You can use it only once, then it clings to the
past. That's what memory is, mind is - a photoplate.
The mind of a buddha is not a
photoplate but a mirror.
Try to be more and more and
more responsible and less and less reactive.
A woman was driving her car at
about eighty miles an hour, when she noticed a motorcycle cop following her.
She did not slow down; she figured that maybe she could shake him off by doing
ninety. When she looked back again there were two motorcycles following her.
She boosted her speed again. The next time she looked, three motorcycles were
screaming along behind her.
Suddenly she saw a service
station looming ahead. She screeched to a stop in front of it, dashed out and
ran into the ladies' room.
Ten minutes later, she walked
demurely out. The three cops were standing right there, waiting for her.
Without batting an eyelash she said coyly, "I bet you thought I wouldn't
make it!"
Question 5:
Beloved Master,
You said, "Unless you become a
sannyasin out of awareness..." at the time I asked for sannyas because I
felt safe with you and your sannyasins, but not out of awareness at all. In
fact, I have much difficulty in becoming a little aware and also with
meditation. Does this mean that it will be better to drop sannyas?
Shridhar, you can drop it - but
only out of awareness!
Question 6:
Beloved Master,
Although You keep telling us that we have
to be in the marketplace - and coming from the West, that should be my
marketplace - I have that strong feeling now that I want to be here near You,
that this is my home. Is this also a desire?
Prem Satyam, this is the
marketplace I go on talking about!
Question 7:
Beloved Master,
Should one try to be rich or not?
Asango, meditate on Murphy's
maxim: Don't care if you are rich or not as long as you can live comfortably
and have everything you want.
That's exactly what I have been
doing and that's exactly what I would like you to do.
Why bother whether you are rich
or not? In fact, people go into unnecessary worries.
Whatsoever you have, enjoy it -
it is already too much. You cannot look at it because your mind is constantly
occupied with doing this, becoming that. And all that existence goes on giving
you, you go on neglecting. You never even thank existence for it; you don't
have any gratitude. Otherwise, even if you don't possess anything, you can live
a very rich life.
A rich life is something inner.
And I am not against outer things, remember, but basically a rich life is
something inner. If you are inwardly rich you can make even outer things richer
by your inner light. For example, if the buddha lives in a hut, he lives in the
hut as if the hut is a palace. If the buddha lives in the palace, of course he
will be able to enjoy the palace more than anybody else in the world. If he can
enjoy the hut as a palace, what to say about the palace itself? Wherever he is
he finds ways to enjoy life.
The whole art of sannyas is to
live a rich life - but the richness comes through your inner awareness. You can
live a very poor life and you can be very rich outwardly; you can have a big
bank balance, but you can live a dog's life.
I know very many rich people. I
feel sorry for them. They have all, but they are living in such a poor way that
I cannot conceive what blindness has befallen them. Can't they see their
beautiful houses, their beautiful gardens? But they don't have any sensitivity.
So the flowers come and go and they pass those flowers every day, but they
don't see.
Otherwise a single flower is
enough. And whether the flower has grown in your garden or in your neighbor's
garden, who cares?
You don't possess the stars,
still you can enjoy them. Or do you first have to possess them, and only then
you will be able to enjoy them? You don't possess the birds in the sky, but you
can enjoy them.
What you need is not more
possessions. What you need is more sensitiveness, more aesthetic sensibility,
more musical ears, more artistic eyes. What you need is a vision which
transforms everything into something significant and meaningful.
You ask me, Asango,
"Should one try to be rich or not?"
You are rich! You have been
given already that which you need. Let it grow, and then whatsoever you have on
the outside will be enough.
You can see my sannyasins
living here. They have not anything really that you can call possessions, but
you cannot find more happy people anywhere in the world. For no reason they are
happy, there is nothing to be happy about! But something inner has started
growing, something like a subtle fragrance which only people who have
sensibility, sensitiveness, can feel; others can't see it.
Many people have asked me,
"Why do your sannyasins look so happy?" The why cannot be answered
easily, because they want to know something on the outside which is causing the
happiness. On the outside there is nothing but all kinds of troubles - the
Indian government, the police, the Indian rotten society and the rotten mind.
There is nothing on the outside. But still, my people are immensely happy. And
they are not just sitting idly, they are working hard, and working hard for no
rewards, no pay; they don't get anything. But something inner is happening;
that is real richness.
Asango, think of that. You are
a new sannyasin; soon you will become aware of it.
Question 8:
Beloved Master,
I want to get married. How can I be sure
that the woman I am marrying is pure in character?
Suresh, this is what I call the
rotten Indian mind! If the woman is really pure, why should she be marrying you
in the first place? And why this desire, this imposition on the other? And what
do you mean by purity, purity of character? Do you mean that she has not known
anybody sexually before you? But that will mean marrying a woman who is
immature, marrying a woman who is inexperienced.
If you are going to employ an
engineer, will you ask him, "The first requirement is that you shouldn't
know anything about engineering"? Then you ask about experience; you want
proofs, certificates.
If you are wise you will
inquire whether the woman has been loved by other people too.
If a woman has not been
approached by anybody up to now, escape! What does it mean? It simply means the
woman is dangerous!
Only very ugly people can have
that kind of purity you are asking for. But I don't see that by having a few
love affairs a person becomes impure. Love purifies. How can it make somebody
impure? The more one loves, the more one becomes artful, skillful, intelligent
in love.
Millions of marriages fail
because two inexperienced persons are trying to work things out. If both are
inexperienced, it is bound to fail.
There are a few primitive
societies still existent in the world where it is thought to be a must that a
woman should know a few men, that the man should know a few women, before they
decide to marry. Marriage needs artfulness; it is a great effort to create a
symphony between two persons' beings.
So don't ask foolish things.
And if you are too much after such a kind of purity, then please, why are you
deciding to make the woman impure? You will suffer for it, and she will suffer
because she will be making you impure. Don't do such harm to each other. Why in
the first place think of marriage? Remain pure!
"Daddy," said young
David, "what is puppy love?"
"The beginning of a dog's
life, my son."
Murphy says: Anything good in
life is either illegal, immoral or fattening.
The three faithful things in
life are money, a dog and an old woman.
So either get married to money
or to a dog or to an old woman! If you are so much interested in purity, if you
are so much wedded to purity, don't ask for a real woman.
Find a plastic woman. You can
always clean it and soap it. Why bother with real people? Real people are real
people.
Two expectant fathers paced the
floor in the waiting room of the hospital.
"What tough luck,"
said one. "This had to happen during my vacation."
"You think you've got
troubles?" said the other. "I'm on my honeymoon!"
Real people are real people.
Things happen to real people, not to plastic people. Yes, even on honeymoon
things can happen!
A pair of good friends,
Frenchmen both, were strolling down the Champs Elysees one day when they spied
two women approaching. "Sacrebleu, Pierre!" cried one. "Here
come my wife and my mistress walking toward us arm in arm."
"Mon Dieu, Henri!"
cried out the second. "I was about to say the very same thing."
Charlie was taking his
out-of-town pal for a stroll through the city. The friend observed a good-looking
girl and asked Charlie if he knew her.
"Yes, that is Betty.
Twenty dollars."
"How about that one?"
"That is Dolores. Forty
dollars."
"Here comes one that is
really first class. Do you know her?"
"That is Gloria. Eighty
dollars."
"My God, aren't there any
nice, respectable girls in this town?"
"Of course, but you could
not afford their rates."
Suresh, either get rid of this
idea of marriage or get rid of the idea of purity of character.
If you keep both the ideas
together you will be in trouble.
And who are you to decide about
others' character? If you love the woman, you love the woman with all her
limitations, with all her imperfections; she loves you with all your
imperfections and limitations.
But this is what - particularly
to the Indian mind - is very significant: perfection. And to demand perfection
is a kind of neurosis. It will drive the other neurotic, and as far as you are
concerned, you are already neurotic. If you ask perfection in any human being
you will create trouble for yourself and for the other, and your life will be
nothing but misery.
The real man of understanding
and intelligence accepts the imperfections of the other and still loves. Love
is great enough; it can even love people who have no character, people who are
not pure according to your ideas, people who sometimes go astray, people who
sometimes commit small sins. Love is big enough to accept all this and to
transform it too.
Question 9:
Beloved Master,
Why do so many people become sannyasins?
Murphy... My God, are you the
same Murphy I have been quoting and misquoting?
You should have told me before!
But you must be, I hope, some other Murphy, because if you were the same Murphy
you would not ask such a question. That old guy is so wise he only gives
answers, he never asks questions.
You ask me, "Why do so
many people become sannyasins?"
Everybody does so for a
different reason; hence it is very difficult to answer. The real sannyasins
cannot even give any reasonable answer why they have become sannyasins.
It is a kind of love affair;
they fall in love with this madman. It is utterly mad, it is absurd. They
simply find some inner communion; something happens to their heart, not to
their head. And when something happens to the heart it is unanswerable.
But a few people become
sannyasins out of the head; then they are only pseudo sannyasins. They can give
you answers why they have become sannyasins.
So this much can be said: one
who can answer why he has become a sannyasin is a wrong sannyasin, a pseudo
sannyasin; the real one can only shrug his shoulders. He can say, "I don't
know, it simply happened." He will not be convincing to you - he can't be
- but try to be sympathetic with the person. It is a love affair.
Who has ever been able to say
why he has fallen in love? One simply falls in love for no reason at all.
Suddenly something clicks; it clicks in such a subtle way that you cannot
figure out why. The why is unanswerable. And whenever it is answerable, the
person is not a real sannyasin. This is the paradox: those who can answer, they
are not real sannyasins; those who cannot answer, they are real sannyasins.
And then there are different
people and they come with different backgrounds, they come here for different
reasons. They open up to me in different ways, they take different time, they
have different paces.
A modern-day Lewis and Clark
exploration team had returned from a two-year exploration of the upper Amazon.
Having bravely gone where no men had gone before, they were greeted by members
of the press from every nation.
"Tell us, sir," asked
a reporter of the first explorer, "what made you go?"
"I had to go," he
replied. "I had to meet the challenge, to test my mettle, to meet the
unknown, to face hardship, and to ponder the real meaning of life."
"And you, sir," he
inquired of the second explorer, "why did you go?"
"You should meet my
wife," came the weary reply.
Different people will have
different reasons. Somebody is here for the exploration of the unknown;
somebody is simply here because of the wife. Somebody is here because this has
been his search for many lives; somebody is here accidentally. He was just
passing Poona, from Kabul to Goa, and seeing so many crazy orange people he
became intrigued. He said to himself, "Man, something far out is going
on!" And then he got hooked... then he forgot all about Goa. Then slowly
slowly, people forget about the whole world. Then this small place becomes
their whole world.
Anxious to be on time for his
date, Carl stopped at the drugstore for a hasty purchase.
The druggist gave him a knowing
smile, and he told the druggist about a lovely chick he met at a party. He was
going to spend the evening with her, and her parents would be out at the opera.
When he got to her house, she
and her mother were waiting for her father to return from work.
When her father walked in, she
introduced both parents to Carl, and Carl said, "Say, why don't Nancy and
I join you this evening?"
"You children don't want
to spend your evening with us old folks," said Nancy's mother.
"Sure we do," said
Carl.
"I didn't know you liked
opera," the bewildered Nancy said to her date, as he was helping her on
with her coat.
"No, and I didn't know
your father was a druggist, either," he said.
So there are different reasons.
I cannot give you a single answer. I cannot say why people become sannyasins.
All that I can say is that I am
utterly mad, and a few people find themselves in tune with me.
Question 10:
Beloved Master,
What is unawareness?
Shivananda, yes, the question
arises and is significant too. It is like the fish asking, "What is the
ocean?" Obviously the fish cannot see the ocean; it has lived in the ocean
always, from the very beginning. It was born in the ocean, it opened its eyes
in the ocean, it has lived as part of the ocean. The ocean is so close, the
fish does not feel itself separate from it. There is no space between the fish
and the ocean to know about it.
And that's actually the case
with unawareness. You are born in unawareness, you live in unawareness, you
sleep in unawareness... you wake up in unawareness. You walk in unawareness,
you talk in unawareness... you read Bibles, Korans, Gitas, in unawareness. It
is so close, you are so permeated by it; it is in your every fiber and cell.
There is no distance between it
and you. Hence the question is very significant and one has to ask it. Only
then can one move slowly out of unawareness towards awareness.
Unawareness is a state of
robotlike existence. You go on repeating mechanically. You go on living without
any alertness in it; sleepy, a somnambulist you are.
Out of ten people, one person
can walk in his sleep, do you know it? That is a big number. Out of a hundred,
ten people are capable of walking in their sleep. If you have ten persons in
your family, that means one person is capable of walking in his sleep.
People get up, they can walk in
darkness, they can reach the fridge, they can eat things, they can come back to
the bed. In the morning they have forgotten all - and then they are worried why
they go on becoming fatter and fatter! In the day they fast or diet and in the
night they compensate as much as they can.
You will have to be a little
separate from your acts; then you will be able to know what unawareness is.
Somebody insults you; immediately, instantly, anger arises. It is like pushing
a button and the light comes on. There is no gap: you push a button and the
light comes on. The light has no time to think whether to come on or not.
Somebody insults you; he pushes a button and immediately you are enraged.
Gurdjieff used to say to his
disciples, "Wait at least for five minutes. What is the hurry?
Let him insult you, let him
finish first. Then you close your eyes and wait for five minutes, and watch
what is happening inside you - anger boiling."
Gurdjieff himself became
enlightened through this simple procedure: that whatsoever is mechanical in man
he tried to make it nonmechanical. And all is mechanical in you - anger, lust,
greed, jealousy - all is mechanical. It simply is there whenever somebody
pushes a button. You are functioning like a robot. Become a man.
That's what meditation is all
about, that's what sannyas is all about. Create a little distance. Next time
somebody insults you, give it five minutes, sit silently for five minutes, and
then you can become angry. I am not saying "Don't become angry" -
because that will be too much. I am saying that just for five minutes allow a
gap, and you will be surprised: after five minutes it is not the same anger
that it would have been five minutes before.
Dale Carnegie remembers an
incident in his life. He delivered a radio broadcast on Abraham Lincoln. He
mentioned a few wrong facts about Lincoln; even his birthdate was wrong. He
received one letter, a very angry letter, from a woman, calling him a fool,
calling him stupid. "If you don't even know the right birthdate, what
right have you got to speak on Abraham Lincoln?"
He became enraged, and he
immediately wrote an angry answer. But it was too late in the day, so he
thought, "Tomorrow morning I will post the letter."
Before posting it he read the
letter again. It looked too angry - twelve hours had passed. He read the
woman's letter; it was not so insulting as it had appeared at the first glance.
So he changed his letter, he wrote it again. When he was writing it again he
said, "Why not wait twenty-four hours more and see what happens? What is
the hurry? The woman is not going to die."
So he waited twenty-four hours
and read his letter again. Now he was even more cool, and still the letter
looked a little too strong. He changed it and thought, "Why not wait
forty-eight hours? Let it be an experiment! I can always send the letter, but
after twelve hours I had to change it, after twenty-four hours I had to change
it much more. Let us see what happens after forty-eight hours."
After forty-eight hours he had
to change it totally. All anger had disappeared. He said, "Now I will wait
two days more and then I will send it."
And when finally he wrote the
letter he apologized; he was no longer angry. The woman was right: what right
has he if he does not know the facts? At least he should have checked the facts
before going to broadcast. It was absolutely right on her part to get angry.
So he wrote, "You are perfectly
right. Next time I will not commit such a mistake. I am deeply sorry that I
hurt your feelings. I apologize. If any time you happen to be in this city,
please come to see me, or, if I come to your town, I will come to see you. I
would like to know more about Lincoln - because I feel you know more than I
know."
Naturally, the woman was
tremendously impressed by the humbleness of the man; she was not expecting that
he would be so humble. Next time she came to that town where Dale Carnegie
lived she phoned him. He went, received her, invited her for a dinner.
And finally the woman and he
became so friendly, they fell in love!
It looks like a fairy tale -
does not happen in real life! In real life only tragedies happen.
But we are responsible for all
those tragedies because of our unawareness.
So the first thing I will
suggest, Shivananda, is that if you want to know what unawareness is, allow a
gap. This is the process of de-automatization. You have become automatic, you
function automatically. You have to reverse the whole process, de- automatize
it, slowly slowly, in small matters.
For example, you have gone for
a walk. Don't walk the same way as you walk every day. Go slow or go fast, but
don't just repeat the same routine. And you will be surprised: if you go slow
you are more aware, if you go faster you are more aware; if you go exactly the
same speed as you follow every day, you lose all awareness.
Buddha told his disciples to
walk very slowly, as slowly as possible. Try it and you will be surprised. A
great awareness arises if you walk very slowly. You speak in a certain way; one
day try to speak in some other way. Speak slowly, and you will be surprised
that the slowness of the speech makes you alert. Suddenly something is changed,
because you are not functioning according to the robot.
Mind has two parts: one is the
learning part, the other is the robot part. The learning part learns; whenever
you are learning something you are more aware. For example, if you are learning
driving you are more aware - you have to be. The moment you have learned it,
the learning part gives its information to the robot part. Once you have
learned driving, then you don't need any awareness; you simply go on doing it
mechanically. You turn towards your house, you arrive in your garage, you lock
the car.
You are doing everything like a
robot.
And this is the story of your
life, twenty-four hours a day. Change it!
Gurdjieff's method was this: if
some vegetarian had come to him as a disciple, the first thing he would insist
was, "Eat meat!" Now this is a very shocking thing for a vegetarian -
to be told to eat meat. And Gurdjieff was a tough master; he would throw you
out if you didn't listen to him, if you didn't follow the command, if you
didn't follow the discipline. He would force you to eat meat. Now, when a
vegetarian eats meat he becomes very conscious - he has to. He has no idea in
the past, no experience in the past, of eating meat. Just think of Mahatma
Gandhi eating meat... he will become tremendously aware!
And if there was a meat-eater,
then Gurdjieff would say, "For a few weeks you be just vegetarian. Don't
eat meat at all - no eggs, no meat, no milk, no animal food of any kind. Just
go on eating vegetables." The whole body system had become accustomed to a
certain pattern. He would change people's eating hours. If you were eating
every day at one o'clock, he would say, "Eat at nine." If you were
going to sleep every day at twelve, he would say to go at two or at ten. He
would change everything. A man who had never been drinking wine, he would force
to drink wine just to change and shatter his pattern. The man who had been a
drunkard, he would stop him from drinking.
Gurdjieff was puzzling to
people, but the method is simple: he was trying to de- automatize. He was one
of the greatest masters of this age, very much misunderstood.
Naturally, everybody was
against him. Who has ever heard of religious masters forcing their disciples to
drink? - forcing, actually forcing. And he would sit there...
The greatest thing in his
commune was the dinner. It used to last four, five, six, seven hours. Every
evening it would start... and it would end in the middle of the night. And he
himself would take care of everybody, of what was being eaten, of what was
given to them - and he would go on forcing. People would become so drunk they
would fall on the ground, and they would start saying things in their
drunkenness - and he would sit by the side and listen. He also used to drink
with them, but he had worked hard on the way. He was a tantra master. He had
been to India and to Tibet too, just to learn tantra.
Tantra has special methods how
to go on drinking and yet remain aware. You cannot be aware even without
drinking. Tantra has methods to slowly slowly drink, and keep awareness, not to
lose track of your awareness. Slowly slowly, the quantity of your drug has to
be increased as you increase in your awareness. A moment comes when - you will
be surprised to know, still there are people in the East who practice it - a
moment comes, when no drug can affect your consciousness at all.
Then the last thing they try is
this: they keep poisonous snakes and they allow the snake to bite them on their
tongue; that is the last method. Ordinarily a man will die... These snakes are
absolutely poisonous. Three percent of the snakes in India are dangerous; you
cannot survive their bite - once bitten you are gone. But these tantra masters
will remain alert even in that moment and they will not die. Their bodies have
become accustomed to all kinds of poisons and they have become alert, so alert
that no drug can affect them.
Gurdjieff used to use that
method with his disciples, simply to shatter your settled habits.
My approach here is to send you
to this group, then to another group, then to still another group. When you go
to different groups for two, three months, each group has its own structure and
pattern and each group destroys other groups' patterns and structures.
And finally I send you to Zazen
or to Vipassana. They are beyond all ordinary structures. Those are the methods
given by Buddha himself. Then you are in a very simple state, watching your own
breath - the breath going in, the breath going out, and you are simply
watching.
This watchfulness will make you
aware of what unawareness is and what awareness is, both. You become aware of
both simultaneously.
It was springtime, and two
lovers were cuddling in a meadow on a dark, new-moon night.
The young man whispered to his
girlfriend, "I sure wish we had a flashlight!"
The girl replied, "I do
too. You have been munching on grass for the last five minutes!"
Get it? - otherwise I will have
to tell another! Meditate over it later on!
Marlene, a pretty Philadelphia
secretary, was taking her first trip across the United States. Driving through
the desert she ran out of gas. An Indian gave her a ride, sitting behind him on
his pony. Every few minutes as they rode he let out a wild, whooping yell that
echoed across the desert. Finally he deposited her at a gas station and went
off with a last "Yaa-hoo!"
"What were you
doing," asked the station owner, "to make that redskin do all that
hollering?"
"Nothing," said the
girl. "I just sat behind him with my arms around his sides holding onto
his saddle horn."
"Miss," said the man,
"Indians ride bareback!"
Enough for today.